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Instructions for life is plain good old advice on how to conduct one’s life.
Om Shanti is a well-known Indian wise man whom millions of people all over the world respect



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INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE
by Om Shanti

By Raden Adji A. Suryo-di-Puro – Father & Grandparent - Jakarta, 28th. January, 2000 1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

2. Memorize your favorite poem.

3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

4. When you say, “I love you”, mean it.

5. When you say, “1’m sorry”, look the person in the eye.

6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

7. Believe in love at first sight.

8. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No, name-calling.

11. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

12. Talk slowly but think quickly.

13. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?” Or, do it the Javanese way: say belum or “not yet”.

14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

I 5.   Phone your mother.

16. Say “bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.

I 7.   When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

I 8.   Remember the three Rs: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.

19. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

20. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

22. Marry the one you love to talk to. As you get older, the conversational skill will be as important as any.

23. Spend some time alone.

24. Open your arms to change but don’t let go of your values.

25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

26. Read more books and watch less TV.

27. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll get to enjoy it a second time.

28. Trust in God but lock your car.

29. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.

30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

31.   Read between the lines.

32. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

33. Be gentle with the earth.

34. Pray. There’s immeasurable power in it.

35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.

36. Mind your own business.

37. Don’t trust a man/woman who doesn’t close his/her eyes when you kiss.

38. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

39. If you make a lot of money, put it to use; help others while you live. That is wealth’s greatest satisfaction.

40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.

41. Learn the rules then break some.

42. Remember; the best relationship is where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.

43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

44. Remember that your character is your destiny.

45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
 

Om Shanti
 

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