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This is the story of our 36 year marriage, a marriage between an Iranian lady and a Javanese. The ups and downs of their life and the devastation of losing their youngest son, Raden Cyrus Agung (Cyrus the Great), no longer a child but a buddy and friend, his life, what he meant to his family, his friends and other things that makes one's life... who passed away on the 28th. January, 1999 at the age of 25 years. It was, and is, the after-death communications (he smiled his Mona Lisa smile 18 hours after passing away) and other events with him which gave hope to our lives that we will see each other again.

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Losing an offspring like our 25 year old, Cyrus, is a devastation NO parent will ever know, unless one experiences it. It is far more devastating than losing one's own parents, spouse or siblings – as we experienced several times.
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    By Raden Adji A. Suryo-di-Puro – Father & Grandparent - Jakarta, 27th. November, 2001Jakarta,'s 5th. largest city in the world's 4th. largest nation ... where is it? Never heard of it? Please click here
    We are sitting at lunch when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of “starting a family.” 

    “We're taking a survey,” she says, half-joking. “Do you think I should have a baby?” 

    “It will change your life,” I said, carefully keeping my tone neutral. 

    “I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations....” 

    But that is not what I meant at all.  I look at my daughter, trying to decide what to tell her. 

    I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but that becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional  wound so
    raw that she will forever be vulnerable. 

    I consider warning her that she will never again  read a newspaper without asking “What if that had been MY child?”  That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her.  That when she sees pictures of
    starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.

    I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. 

    That an urgent call of  “Mom!” will cause her to drop a souffle or her best crystal without a moment's hesitation. 

    I feel I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. 

    She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting and she will think of her baby's sweet smell.

    She will have to use every ounce of her discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her baby is all right. 

    I want my daughter to know that everyday decisions will no longer be routine.  That a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at McDonald's will become a major dilemma. That
    right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom. 

    However decisive  she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother. 

    Looking at my attractive daughter, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. 

    That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child.  That she would give it up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years-not to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs. 

    I want her to know that a caesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will become badges of honour. 

    My daughter's relationship with her husband will change, but not in the way she thinks.  I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his child.  I think she should know that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now find very unromantic. 

    I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice and drunk driving. 

    I hope she will understand why I can think rationally about most issues, but become temporarily insane when I discuss the threat of nuclear war to my children's future. 

    I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child learn to ride a bike.  I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or a cat for the first time.

    I want her to taste the joy that is so real, it actually hurts. 

    My daughter's quizzical look makes me realise that tears have formed in my eyes.  “You'll never regret it,” I finally say. Then I reach across the table, squeeze my daughter's hand and offer a silent prayer for her, and for me, and for all of the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this most wonderful of callings.  This blessed gift from God . . .that of being a Mother. 

    Please share this with a Mom that you know or a future Mom you know. 

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    “ ..I hope you continue your road map.. ” –  the web's largest site on grandparenting: “I looked at your site (it was excellent) ... I hope you continue to design your great site and continue your road map!* Have a good day.”  ... Bryan Butakis• *Road map is a reference on real-life experience, the "how-to" of handling the devastation and bereavement of losing one's child, and the psychic and physical “After Death Communications” found in several webpages at the site map.
    “ ..success stories!”  Living in Indonesia - A site for expats  –  one of the largest web sites for Expats living in the vast and sprawling Indonesian nation, the world's 4th. largest populated nation.. click here for more infoIt's great to have real life examples of all the things we're talking about ... Especially the ‘success stories’ of the kids** of these (mixed) marriages ...Your sites are very interesting and offer valuable insight to many ... good luck with them all!! ... All the best”  ... Danielle Sukarty, Organizing Committee, Living in Indonesia - A site for expats  •  **Laila 35 years the smart Environment & City Planning Engineer  & **Arto 34 years, the Diplomat
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    “ ..Everything I wish I could articulate  myself.. ”  I visited (this) webpage and found it to be everything I wish I could articulate myself ... although I know what a heart wrenching task it must have been to put it in words, I am grateful to you for what you have done ... ” Teresa, Arkansas, U.S.A. (a bereaved parent) 
    “I've found a shelter in a storm.. ” How amazingly wonderful your site is! My son Karl died on 2/21/01. He was 18. I miss him IMMENSELY! Hugs to you and your beautiful wife. Thank you so much for sharing your hearts. I especially Love seeing photo's of your beautiful son Cyrus. I'm saving your web pages and plan to read EVERY word... It's so wonderful you have such an important and extensive site for human beings in such pain and need. Know that today, thank's be to God and You, I've found a shelter in a storm. GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR WIFE AND DEAR CYRUS!!!”  Colleen McCurdy, 25 Mar. ’01 |
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    “ brought tears in my eyes.. ” I am so sorry about the loss of your son Cyrus. I have read the story that you wrote in the page. I cannot imagine the trauma that you and your wife had to go thru, it brought tears in my eyes at the middle of the story what you must have gone thru. How sad it must had been. We too had our sorrows and had to go thru the valley of the unknown hurts of life... Gustaaf Vogelsang 8 August, 2001
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    “ ..losing a child is far more devastating.. ” Losing an offspring like our 25 year old, Cyrus, is a devastation NO parent will ever know, unless ONE EXPERIENCES it. It is far more devastating than losing one's own parents and brothers and sisters – which we had experienced and had gone through several times. More so when this child was a living doll, then no longer a child, became an adult and then a friend, a trusted buddy who can instead give advice, and whom we can share experiences with . On Jan. 28, 1999 when he passed away, and 2½ years later on Aug. 7th. 2001, our voices still break up and tears welled up in his mother's eyes , when a friend who did not know Cyrus was no longer with us, asked “...and how is Cyrus..?” || The Do's and Don'ts in facing bereaved parents – from the bereaved's perspectives
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