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How does it feel getting old? 
Old is a figure of speech. You behave like an oldster, you become old. Old means experience. If your attitude is like when you were younger, you will remain young - with the benefits of life experiences. This is the story of our lives when as youngsters aged 22 and 23, 35 years ago we started our family; gone through happy and sad times, including the devastation of losing our youngest, a beloved son and friend of 25 years of age on January 28th. 1999.
The conclusion:
What is all this for? There must be reasons?


 
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    Some Great Things About Getting Older • With Music Tracks

    “Getting Old” contributed By Marcia Sabetti, a former Washingtonian living in Durango Mother of two children in their mid-20s. • Commentary by R. Adji Suryo-di-Puro – Father since 1965 & Grandparent since 1995. Jakarta, 28th. January, 2000 •
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    SOME GREAT THINGS ABOUT GETTING OLDER
    * Finally you can eat dinner at 4:00
    * Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.
    * Kidnappers are not very interested in you – unless you are filthy rich.
    * It’s harder for sexual harassment charges to stick (but dont mind doing it)
    * If you've never smoked, you can start now and it won't have time to hurt you.
    * People no longer view you as a hypochondriac.
    * Your secrets are safe with your friends because they can’t remember them  either.
    * Your supply of brain cells is finally down to a manageable size.
    * Your eyes won't get much worse.
    * Things you buy now won’t wear out.
    * No one expects you to run into a burning building.
    * There’s nothing left to learn the hard way.
    * Your joints are more accurate than the National Weather Service.
    * In a hostage situation you are likely to be released first.
    * You are smarter, much smarter, at over 50 than when you were only 25, and.
    From the over 50 ... the facts
    * Don’t knock the elders, because when they were your age they probably looked as good or better, were as strong or stronger than you are now, and probably had the guts to do things you only dream about – like being a  James Bond field operative, fighting the East German intelligence and Soviet KGB – with all the inherent dangers of being shot at and maimed, blown up and killed, or tortured and imprisoned for 20 years, and getting your girl just like in the James Bond movies.

    * If elders look decrepit now, you are lucky if you can look that good when you’re their age. 

    * ... And finally, don’t forget ... you, too, will become old. 



    For fellow elders whose spirit are young and have life left in them, click here for some music that reflect your youthful spirit² • Or this one for a little bit slower one² • Or an After Midnight?¹**ºAnd All of MeThe cool Moorea³**How about your Days of Wine & Roses. We all had them?Click here if the first one was not fast enough³**

    Please click this line for Cyrus' other 30-plus music tracks that he and I used to play and accompany on CDs & tape

    ³Sequenced (played & arranged) by Devian, a 30-year Indonesian graduate from the Berkely School of Music & used with permission • º Sequenced by Jan Halsema & used with permission • *Wherever possible and available permission was requested from their composers • ** Used with permission • All music tracks are available for non-commercial use.
    What Advantages Are There In Being Old – aside from the above?
    For one thing, the olderster has seen it all – compared to when he was a younger.  That’s why s/he doesn’t get as excited as when s/he was younger. It was a big deal to go to one’s first dance, but no big deal after one has attended all the cocktail parties in town and frequented the town’s discos.
    True, physical abilities decline but replacing that is experience. 
    Experience means not bumping your head against walls, nor have your legs blown off figuratively-speaking in the mine fields of life’s hard knocks because the oldster has bumped his/her head and suffered the consequences of hard knocks all too often. That is why in Asian societies, and indegenous Indian societies in North and South Americas, its elders are always highly regarded and even venerated.
    And finally ...
    The old folks have been there ... and went through it. But you have never been there.
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    “ ..Everything I wish I could articulate  myself.. ”  I visited (this) webpage and found it to be everything I wish I could articulate myself ... although I know what a heart wrenching task it must have been to put it in words, I am grateful to you for what you have done ... ” Teresa, Arkansas, U.S.A. (a bereaved parent who commemorates her daughter's passing away by inviting other bereaved parents to commemorate their loved one on her website)
    “I've found a shelter in a storm.. ” How amazingly wonderful your site is! My son Karl died on 2/21/01. He was 18. I miss him IMMENSELY! Hugs to you and your beautiful wife. Thank you so much for sharing your hearts. I especially Love seeing photo's of your beautiful son Cyrus. I'm saving your web pages and plan to read EVERY word... It's so wonderful you have such an important and extensive site for human beings in such pain and need. Know that today, thank's be to God and You, I've found a shelter in a storm. GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR WIFE AND DEAR CYRUS!!!”  Colleen McCurdy, 25 Mar. ’01 |
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    “ ..it brought tears in my eyes.. ” I am so sorry about the loss of your son Cyrus. I have read the story that you wrote in the page. I cannot imagine the trauma that you and your wife had to go thru, it brought tears in my eyes at the middle of the story what you must have gone thru. How sad it must had been. We too had our sorrows and had to go thru the valley of the unknown hurts of life... Gustaaf Vogelsang 8 August, 2001
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    “ ..losing a child is far more devastating.. ” Losing an offspring like our 25 year old, Cyrus, is a devastation NO parent will ever know, unless ONE EXPERIENCES it. It is far more devastating than losing one's own parents and brothers and sisters – which we had experienced and had gone through several times. More so when this child was a living doll, then no longer a child, became an adult and then a friend, a trusted buddy who can instead give advice, and whom we can share experiences with . On Jan. 28, 1999 when he passed away, and 2½ years later on Aug. 7th. 2001, our voices still break up and tears welled up in his mother's eyes , when a friend who did not know Cyrus was no longer with us, asked “...and how is Cyrus..?” || The Do's and Don'ts in facing bereaved parents – from the bereaved's perspectives
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