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The Life-Connection Website offers its condolences to the Families whose loved ones have passed away during the tragic events that took place in the U.S.A. 40 different nationalities died in New York alone. While we may speak different languages and accustomed to do things in different ways, basically we are ALL the same because we need love, we are happy, and cry when we lose someone we care about. May some of these pages provide some comfort and the knowledge that their loved ones are allright. For some guideliness from the bereaved's perspectives, see A Road Map for the Bereaved and How to Handle Bereaved Parents|| A Poem: "God said: 'I'll Lend You My Child'" | The 1st. Anniversary of our Cyrus' departure with music ... Why with music? | See the Site Map Menu Below. |
Jakarta, Tuesday,
11th. September, 2001
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Daughter Laila-36 years – the smart woman environment & city planning engineer Indonesian & U.S. graduate, experiences in Indonesia, Canada, Hawaii, Holland, Japan, USA whom a suitor from West Papua (Irian Jaya) wanted to buy with 20 pigs. Son Arto-35, the Diplomat, his wife Dewi & 2 Sons Indonesia's "hidden" financial & political roles in the world arena by Lena Soares**I Indonesia Baru [The ideal New Indonesia]• Monopolies [Telcoms] Must Be Dismantled |
Java King Mangku Negoro I – Raden Mas Said the "Life-Taker" King immune from bullets & cannons Grand Dad • Foreign Office Co-Founder Raden Mas Suyoto Suryo-di-Puro Descendant of King Mangku Negoro 1 The Iranian & Javanese Parents 1964-2000 former Journalist & Field Operative (real live James Bond) who married his girl |
The Iranian Family Son Cyrus-28 The Businessman, Musician & the music tracks he played along with ... the youngest of the family. |
That its 220 MILLION+ population is the world's youngest, 75% are under the age of 30 or 165 million youngsters, that over 60% of the total population are women and that its 9 nationwide TV stations reflect its youthful culture and language (besides the local & international 55-channel cable and satellite channels), and that only 8% are above the age of 60 (National Statistics Board Aug. 2001), and are made up of 582 ethnic, culture & language groups as different as French and Arabs; that "Indonesia" (a word made up in 1945 by its founding fathers) are Chinese, Javanese/ Malays, Arabs, Indians and are made up of browns, yellows, blacks and whites and every color in between; where there are Protestants, Catholics, Buddhists, Hindus, Zoroasterians, other religions most never heard of, and that Moslems make up 85% of the people where Mosques and Churches stand side by side making it the world largest Islamic nation, but is a secular (unspecified religious or political) state with rights to worship any religion, and it's as diverse as the U.S.A; That its 220 million-plus population is the world's 4th. largest populated out of 235 countries after China, India and the U.S., and 3rd. largest democracy after India & the U.S.; that 85% of commercial shipping and the world's navies use its waters (US President Bill Clinton) passing through its 17,508 islands, one of them being the world- renowned island-of-the gods Bali with its own lifestyle, with 85,000 kilometer (52,800 miles) of Hawaiian-like tropical coastline, (Marine & Fishery Dept. & Mapping Agency satellite photos) making it the world's largest tropical paradise with an average temperature of 21 to 32 Celcius (70-90 Fahrenheit); that its capital city's 12 million night time population increases during the day (published 1997 & 98 Jakarta Govt. statistics) making JAKARTA the same size as the whole Australian nation of 20 million, and is one of the world's 5 largest cities (United Nations population statistics) with "intelligent" skyscrapers & that it needs 1 hour at a constant speed of 55 mph/85 kph to travel its internal circular city toll road on concrete stilts to reach the same point of departure - and that it's as modern as New York, Paris & London with as many as, and larger shopping malls; and that it is cheaper to live and shop for the same things than in Hong Kong, Singapore and other world-known shopping centers because many of their citizens come to shop here (part of nighttime Jakarta, below right photo); That the world's leaders in fashion, computer & auto magazines have their Bahasa Indonesia- (Indonesian) language versions (Harper's Bazaar, Cosmopolitan, Cosmo Boy, Cosmo Girl, Seventeen, Her, Men's Health, Auto, Autocar, Computer World, etc.) and 95% of all trucks, cars, small & large motor bikes including the Harley Davidsons & big 1,100cc BMWs one sees on the roads are locally assembled by their various manufacturers, and that it makes its own weapons, airplanes, 2-man attack helicopter gunships that can loop (fly a complete circle, close to impossible for a helicopter); that the "Flight-By-Wire" technology (moving an object by remote control) available in the European airbus and now copied all over the world for other forms of moveable objects including missiles was invented over 25 years ago by B.J. Habibie, a former senior vice-president at a German aircraft company which co-manufacturers the Airbus, and former vice-president and then president of Indonesia; and that original $5 Macdonalds cost .70cents Pizza Huts, Wendys, Kentucky Frieds, Cokes, Pepsi, licensed CDs, VCDs and DVDs cost a fraction (15-35%) of their country of origin? That in spite of some negative international economic & political press publicity, the nation is NOT bankrupt (the Government is because past governments ran up debts of US$ 120 billion to international institutions, 70% of it lost through corruption), because 85% of middle and low level, or some 35 million businesses owned directly by the people NOT associated with the government, including publicly-owned companies, are in fact growing during the country's 4 year economic crises because new real estate housing projects & malls in cities and their satellite towns throughout the country are sprouting all over; that new US$500,000 Bentleys, Rolls Royces and Ferraris and $250,000 Porsches, double their prices in their home countries, as well as the modestly-priced US$6,200 Ceria & $9,200 mini 5-passenger vehicles made by KIA, Daewoo & Daihatsu are still being sold (Recession? ..Never heard of it?... Chicago Tribune); and that its people are NOT against foreigners because foreigners have NEVER done anything wrong to Indonesians. Some foreign government official announcements that advise "Indonesia harbors terrorists" and "don't go to Indonesia because you are a foreigner.." is like saying because an American was caught red-handed & arrested as a member of the Osama bin Laden organization in Afghanistan (and not counting those who are undiscovered), it does not mean that the U.S. is a nest of terrorists; or that a miniscule number of people in the U.S. are against blacks, it does not mean that 99.9% of the whole American nation is against blacks, just like 99.9% of Indonesians are not against foreigners and is certainly not a nest of terrorists. Yet, no foreigners were ever harmed, nor kidnapped or attacked in Indonesia. To be balanced, these foreign announcements should also announce: "Don't go to the U.S. because you are black...you may be attacked". That is how ridiculous this analogy sounds to the typical Indonesian (and exptariates who know and lived in Indonesia). The country is TOO BIG, and its people and hundreds of its numerous cultures are TOO LARGE to be stereotyped... just as Western AND Eastern Europe AND parts of the Middle East - the area that is Indonesia - is too large and its people and languages are TOO diverse to be stereotyped. That rubber, chocolate, tobacco, rice, pepper and other spices which the whole world has come to regard as its own, came from this area of 121 former royal kingdoms over 2000 years ago which included the Sriwidjaya & Majapahit Empires (700-1300 & 1100 AD), and were traded all over the world in Europe, Asia, and the South Americas, and that these traders seeded areas in South Africa, Madagascar, Hawaii, New Zealand, Suriname in central America among many other areas, because the Javanese cultural imprint still make up their present indigenous culture. | The Makings of a world Superpower, by L. Soares.. Please click here ||How? Click here | Living in Indonesia (by expatriates) & in Jakarta where there is no serious rush to meet deadlines because if the weather or something else doesn't get you and messes up your plans, the traffic jams will... |
Sunset in one of the 17,508 islands Some of The Life-Connection Website Stories based on actual real-life experiences... Some Great Things About Becoming Old | Why People Have Different Beliefs? | Traveling to Bali by land? | That Crazy Old Man On His 300 kmh/191 mph Kawasaki Ninja ZZR 1100cc MotorBike|| ADCs Are Real|| The Miracle of the fan | The Amazing Grasshopper Event |.Handling the bereaved – The Do's & Don'ts Riwayat Kerja R. Adji Suryo-di-Puro selama 37 tahun By website visitors based on their real-life experiences... 01 Aug, 21 Apr, 27th Nov. '01 Be a Mom (or Dad) - For all Moms - past, present and future ... | A Man's Visit to Heaven and Back | NDEs, A Brush with the Hereafter 23/Sep/01-JKT Post | If you love something... | Trying to understand the pain when someone we love leaves us A part of the City - Our Jakarta Home The Beach not far from home–or in one of the 17,508 islands These sites were uploaded to U.K. and U.S. servers from our Jakarta home using fibre optic broadband technology. |
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“
..I hope you continue your road map.. ” www.iGrandparents.com
– the web's largest site on grandparenting:
“I looked at your
site (it was excellent) ... I hope you continue to design your great
site and continue your road map!*
Have a good day.” ... Bryan Butakis www.iGrandparents.com•
*Road map is a reference on real-life experience,
the "how-to" of handling the devastation
and bereavement of losing one's child, and the psychic
and physical “After Death Communications”
found in several webpages at the www.suryo.net
site map.
“ ..success stories!” Living in Indonesia - A site for expats – one of the largest web sites for Expats living in the vast and sprawling Indonesian nation, the world's 4th. largest populated nation.. click here for more info. It's great to have real life examples of all the things we're talking about ... Especially the ‘success stories’ of the kids** of these (mixed) marriages ...Your sites are very interesting and offer valuable insight to many ... good luck with them all!! ... All the best” ... Danielle Sukarty, Organizing Committee, Living in Indonesia - A site for expats • **Laila 36 years the smart Environment & City Planning Engineer & **Arto 35 years, the Diplomat |
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“
..Everything I wish I could articulate myself.. ”
I visited (this) webpage and found it to be everything I wish I could articulate
myself ... although I know what a heart wrenching task it must have been
to put it in words, I am grateful to you for what you have done ... ” Teresa,
Arkansas, U.S.A. (a bereaved parent who commemorates her daughter's passing
away by inviting other bereaved parents to
commemorate their loved one on her website)
“I've found a shelter in a storm.. ” How amazingly wonderful your site is! My son Karl died on 2/21/01. He was 18. I miss him IMMENSELY! Hugs to you and your beautiful wife. Thank you so much for sharing your hearts. I especially Love seeing photo's of your beautiful son Cyrus. I'm saving your web pages and plan to read EVERY word... It's so wonderful you have such an important and extensive site for human beings in such pain and need. Know that today, thank's be to God and You, I've found a shelter in a storm. GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR WIFE AND DEAR CYRUS!!!” Colleen McCurdy, 25 Mar. ’01 | What other folks had to say... | The Do's and Don'ts in facing bereaved parents–from the bereaved's perspectives|| After-Death Communications is Real – The Miracle of the Fan | “Our Son in the other dimension” |
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“ ..it brought tears in my eyes.. ” I am so sorry about the loss of your son Cyrus. I have read the story that you wrote in the page. I cannot imagine the trauma that you and your wife had to go thru, it brought tears in my eyes at the middle of the story what you must have gone thru. How sad it must had been. We too had our sorrows and had to go thru the valley of the unknown hurts of life... Gustaaf Vogelsang 8 August, 2001 |
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“
..losing a child is far more devastating.. ” Losing
an offspring like our 25 year old, Cyrus, is a devastation NO parent will
ever know, unless ONE EXPERIENCES it. It is far more devastating than losing
one's own parents and brothers and sisters – which
we had experienced and had gone through several times. More so when
this child was a living
doll, then no longer a child, became an adult and then a friend, a trusted
buddy who can instead give advice, and whom we can share experiences with
. On Jan. 28, 1999 when he
passed away, and 2½ years later on Aug. 7th. 2001, our voices still
break up and tears welled up in his mother's eyes , when a friend who
did not know Cyrus was no longer with us, asked “...and how is Cyrus..?”
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•Raden Roro Laila - The Smart Woman Environment Engineer •Raden Arto, Javanese prince The Diplomat...& his family •Raden Cyrus Agung ... 9 Nov. 1973–28 Jan. 1999* & remembering his favorite kind of music – An Eulogy to a departed Son – In Bahasa Indonesia – A poem: God said: "I'll lend you my Child..." – A friend Asks: Tell me about Cyrus? – Friends say: My Heart Breaks for you – In memory of Cyrus' 1st. Anniversary in the Other Dimension Music Page–28 January, 2000 – The Do's and Don'ts in facing bereaved parents – from the bereaved's perspectives –Published Reference List on the After-Life, Near Death Experiences & After-Death Communications – What Do the Other Dimensions & “After Death Communications” Convey? – After-Death Communications is Real - The Miracle of the Fan 26 Aug., 1999 – The One-Legged Grasshopper • The Air Conditioning System that refused to be shut off • The Exploding Light Bulb – A Prayer for our Son & all other departed children
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"bahan titik", an acronym which means material made from dots, the process
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